| Rev. Boon Lin, right, with fiance Phineas Newborn III, whom he's to marry in New York on Wednesday. (Courtesy Boon Lin Ngeo) |
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- He chose Malaysia's Independence Day to "remind others...to keep fighting"
- A Chinese-Malaysian, he plans a Chinese wedding banquet in Kuala Lumpur next year
- Homosexuality is prosecutable under Malaysia's Penal Code 377
- Both and his fiance's previous marriages had been with women
(CNN) --
Malaysia's first openly gay pastor has chosen Wednesday, coinciding with the
country's Independence Day, to get married to his American partner in New York,
barely a month after same-sex marriage became legalized there.
"It
means a lot to be married that day, to honor my country and people in Malaysia,"
said Rev. Boon Lin Ngeo, who also goes by his pen name O.Young or Ouyang Wen
Feng, in a telephone call from Kota Kinabalu, the capital of Malaysia's Sabah
state, during a visit there last week.
He said the
date was chosen to remind others that "we need to keep fighting for our
rights and be independent from all kinds of oppression."
The two
plan to make it legal at New York's City Hall at noon with the actual wedding
ceremony on another date. A Chinese-Malaysian, Ngeo also plans a Chinese
wedding banquet in the Malaysian capital of Kuala Lumpur next year for family
and friends.
In
Malaysia, a predominantly Muslim nation, sodomy and "carnal intercourse
against the order of nature,"-- under which homosexuality falls -- are
prosecutable under Penal Code 377. Offenders face imprisonment of up to 20
years and a whipping. Islamic Sharia laws in Malaysia also criminalize
homosexuality.
The Human
Rights Commission of Malaysia declined a request by CNN to comment on gay
marriage, with the public affairs spokeswoman calling it "a very sensitive
issue and not a common lifestyle."
The
marriage is the second for both Ngeo, 41, and his fiancé, Phineas Newborn III,
47, a Broadway producer and performer as well as progeny of two generations of
jazz musicians whose name he bears. Newborn has a daughter from his previous
marriage; both men's prior marriages were with women and ended in divorce.
"A lot
of gay people, because of prejudice and discrimination, hide themselves in a
heterosexual marriage because of social pressures, family pressures," Ngeo
said. "So they lead a double life. That's no good to anyone. There are a
lot of straight people who have been hurt by this discrimination."
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Ngeo said
he had believed his wife was sent as an angel of God to get rid of his
homosexuality. "We were good friends, but something was missing," he
said.
In 1998,
two years into his marriage, Ngeo went to the United States to study sociology
and religious studies at the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. "It
was an eye-opening experience," he said. "I began to look at
Christianity from new perspectives and the Bible from new perspectives and
realized there are many theologies out there, many theologians, relatively
different understandings of the Bible from Christian fundamentalism."
Another
formative milestone was when Ngeo went to New York in 2001 to pursue his Ph.D.
in sociology at City University of New York. There he attended the New York
City congregation of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC), which was founded
in 1968 as a ministry that welcomed gays, bisexuals and transgendered people.
"It
was a very empowering experience for me to be in a church, and I didn't have to
deny my sexuality," he said. "I could be very honest with myself,
with all church members and also with God."
Queer
theology took its place next to liberation theology and feminist theology, he
said. "Christian fundamentalism is just one school, not the only
one."
According
to Rev. Dr. Patrick S. Cheng, a gay theologian and member of the MCC theologies
team who had been assistant pastor when Ngeo was struggling to come out, queer
theology has developed since the 1950s. In his new book, "Radical Love: An
Introduction to Queer Theology," Cheng argues that radical love, "a
love so extreme that it dissolves our existing boundaries," including
"gay" vs. "straight," "male" vs.
"female," lies at the heart of queer theology.
"Given
that theology literally means "God talk," Cheng explained, referring
to its Greek etymology, "queer theology can be defined as queer (that is,
lesbian gay, bisexual, transgender and queer) people talking about God."
"It is
presumed that we have nothing to say about Christianity and/or the Christian
tradition is opposed to our very existence," he added in an email.
Queer
theology has increasingly appeared within the curricula of U.S. divinity
schools, including the Chicago Theological Seminary, Episcopal Divinity School
where Cheng taught a course this summer, and Harvard Divinity School, which is
expected to offer a course next year. Durham University and the University of
Birmingham in the UK also offer such courses.
When Ngeo
came out to his wife in 2001, he recalled her saying that she had known.
"She encouraged me to come out, to live my life, and she's been very
supportive, and we remain very good friends until today."
Ngeo did
not come out publicly until 2006, a year after his divorce, with the
publication of his book, "Is Now the Future? An Asian Gay Man's Coming Out
Journey."
The
following year, Ngeo, newly ordained in New York, helped Joe Pang, a youth
pastor, found the Good Samaritan Metropolitan Community Church in Kuala Lumpur.
Pang was barred from the ministry of his Baptist church after revealing he was
gay.
"We
don't call ourselves a gay church," Ngeo said. "It's a Christian
church that welcomes everyone."
Their
church remains unrecognized by the Christian Federation of Malaysia, which
comprises the country's three main Christian groups: Council of Churches of
Malaysia, the National Evangelical Christian Fellowship and the Roman Catholic
Church.
CFM's
chairman, Bishop Ng Moon Hing, speaking not on behalf of the group but in his
capacity as Anglican Bishop of West Malaysia, said in an email, "I believe
everyone has his own right to do anything he wishes as long as that does not
contravene the law of the land and the law of God (according to the faith he
belongs).
"For
my Church, we do not endorse same-sex marriage or gay ordination, but we love
gay people just like any other humans. We will continue to pray for this gay
pastor and his so-called gay church that one day they will see the orthodox
teaching of their faith. The Anglican Church in West Malaysia believe the Bible
teaches the sanctity of marriage of one man-one woman as husband and wife in a
family."
Ngeo said
he does not believe Christianity is against gays. "It's just the
interpretation of some Christian fundamentalists," he said. "The
Bible has been used to justify homophobia in the same way it has been used to
justify slavery or the persecution of those who disagree with the church."
Ngeo said a
literal interpretation of the Bible was dangerous. "You're making it an
idol. You need to know the historical context of the Bible," he added.
Now an
author and editor of 25 books -- among them "God Loves Gays,"
"Gays Love God" and "Our Stories," a collection of coming-out
stories by ethnic Chinese -- Ngeo is finishing his dissertation for a doctorate
in theology at Boston University. (He has yet to complete his doctorate in
sociology.) He'll be teaching a course in women and gender's studies at CUNY as
well as "Introduction to Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Studies" at
Saint Peter's College, the only Jesuit college in New Jersey.
David S.
Surrey, the professor and chair of the sociology and urban studies department
at St. Peter's, said the course was very popular and among many Ngeo has taught
at the school. "His student reviews reflect on his strong teaching and his
inclusion of all groups in the discussion," Surrey wrote in an email.
Ngeo said
the toughest opposition he's faced is not from "religious bigots or straight
people, but gay people who have internalized homophobia."
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